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Entering the third trimester.. 84 days until due date

Entering the third trimester.. 84 days until due date

Well – we made it! I am 28 weeks today, marking the start of the third and final trimester. THE HOME STRETCH. All things considered, I am feeling pretty good! I definitely feel heavier and getting on and off the lounge and in and out […]

Summer Reading List – so far..

Summer Reading List – so far..

Where do I even begin?! Seriously. This year may have been hard, and challenging, and completely gut-wrenching at times, but it has also been rewarding and the most life-changing, transformative period of my life. And, I do feel that Summer 2018-19 is going to be […]

Gestational Diabetes Test

Gestational Diabetes Test

Yesterday, as some of you may have seen on instagram, I had to go into hospital to have the Gestational Diabetes Test. Taken from Diabetes Australia, “Gestational diabetes mellitus (sometimes referred to as GDM) is a form of diabetes that occurs during pregnancy. Most women will no longer have diabetes after the baby is born. However, some women will continue to have high blood glucose levels after delivery. It is diagnosed when higher than normal blood glucose levels first appear during pregnancy.” It is also the fastest growing type of diabetes in Australia, affecting between 12-14% of pregnant women.

The test is taken between the 26 and 28 week mark of your pregnancy and let me tell you, I was not expecting it to be as unpleasant as it was. The test involves fasting from 9pm the night before. You will then have an early appointment at the hospital the following morning where you will have a blood test. While you are still in the chair, you have five minutes to drink a bottle of what the lab technician simply calls a ‘glucose drink’, then you are required to wait in the pathology lab for an hour before they take a second blood test. Then, after waiting another hour, a third blood test is taken after which you are free to eat.

It is normal for women to have low blood pressure while pregnant and it is incredibly common for that to last the entirety of your pregnancy. I have had particularly low blood pressure over the last six months and yes, have fainted because of it during my pregnancy. After not eating for over twelve hours (as I had dinner at 7pm the night before and my test was at 8.30am the next day) and then having my blood taken, I knew immediately that I was going to faint. My hands, underarms and forehead went clammy, my eyes started to roll back into my head and I had trouble staying upright. It was not fun. The technician sat and monitored me before I came to and then she handed me the glucose drink. The liquid was like drinking an entire packet of Starburst lollies and, having not eaten and having had blood taken, gave me a headache almost instantly.

I was shown to the waiting room where two other pregnant women were and, I don’t know if they were just better at hiding their discomfort than I was, both seemed perfectly fine. Tired, yes, but fine. Meanwhile, I perched myself in a corner and simply tried not to vomit for the next hour. When it came time for me to have the second lot of bloods taken, I could feel that the colour had drained from my face (anyone who has ever fainted knows the exact feeling I am talking about). The nurse kindly reminded me that if I vomited, the test would be ruined and I would have to come back and do it again. I focused on one point of the wall, tried to breathe slowly and then returned to my sad little Don’t Vomit corner.

While waiting for the third and final blood test, the waiting room filled up and an elderly woman started talking about the war and her husband and what our great suburb used to be like back in the forties when she was a little girl and if I had the energy, I would have thrown a chair at her. The other pregnant women around me again did not seem phased meanwhile I was as white as a sheet of Reflex paper and was still trying to keep everything in my stomach. Finally, the second hour was up and I had a third needle shoved into my arm. Needless to say, I was not in a good way. Sure, I didn’t vomit, but my headache was exceptionally close to turning into a migraine and the nausea was unbearable. My arms hurt from the needles and I was absolutely starving but with no desire to eat.

I headed to the cafe and got a chicken and salad wrap that I ate on the way to work (I shouldn’t have gone in..). Once I got to work and sat down at my desk, my headache got worse. Every colleague of mine told me I looked awful (it was said with love) and to go home. So, back to my car I traipsed oh-so-slowly, and I drove myself home where I remained horizontal on the lounge all night. The headache did not abate, the nausea did improve somewhat, but my body felt so completely out of whack that I was uncomfortable the whole day. Inside me however, bub remained blissfully unaware of how awful I felt and continued to kick and play and just be generally adorable. Even after three lots of painkillers over the course of the day, my headache rendered me completely useless and did not subside until I was asleep. When we were on the lounge, Pete rubbed my feet which was just out of this world delightful and made all the difference to how utterly crappy I was feeling.

I won’t get the results for another couple of days, but I am so grateful that I don’t have to go through that again (not during this pregnancy at least). I was expecting it to be boring, waiting around the hospital for two hours, but what I wasn’t expecting was how deteriorated and unpleasant and gross and sick it was going to make me. How I felt yesterday was on par with how sick and feral I felt when we were in Thailand and I ended up on a drip. Having said that, the other pregnant mamas seemed completely fine and unfazed and no one that I have spoken to about the test warned me about how sick I would feel. Maybe it’s just me? I mean, I escaped vomiting and had it pretty darn good when it came to morning sickness, so maybe this is my little bout of shittiness?

I want to take a moment to thank my beautiful son for getting me through yesterday. No matter how awful I felt (and I think it is pretty clear how awful I felt), whenever I felt our little man move and squirm and kick, I was momentarily removed from my discomfort and found myself smiling down at my belly. There is no amount of sadness or pain or unpleasantness that cannot be overcome by your little persons movements. Of that, I am sure.

91 days until due date

91 days until due date

Alright people, we are officially down to double digits in our countdown to the arrival of our baby boy! This time next week will mark the start of my third trimester and I almost can’t believe it. Though pregnancy has felt a lot longer than […]

Behind the Pages x The (Oblivious) New Mama

Behind the Pages x The (Oblivious) New Mama

Today is a very special day – and one that I have been overwhelmingly excited to share with you all! Partnering with Gina from Behind the Pages, I am beyond proud to announce that The (Oblivious) New Mama has its very own, all natural skincare range! The […]

One Fine Baby

One Fine Baby

Over the weekend, the One Fine Baby baby fair was on at Moore Park in Sydney. Showcased as ‘the most stylish baby fair in Australia’, the Royal Hall of Industries was packed with over 100 brands, both boutique and major. More than just a marketplace to buy goods for you, your bump or your toddler, the One Fine Baby baby fair provides its attendees with unique ideas for the next exciting stage of their lives.

The parking situation was simple and stress-free, and the whole event was run really well. After registering our attendance, we were given free samples from a few of the vendors as well as a bag to carry everything around in. It was pretty surreal to be surrounded by so many other pregnant mamas-to-be and rather comical seeing the hordes of them walking towards the venue. It wasn’t until I was among all those bellies that I realise how nice it was to know that all those women and I are going through the same journey – sure, our experiences will vary dramatically, but each of us had something incredibly special and real in common. It was a really warm feeling (and now the idea of joining a Mother’s Group is starting to make a whole lot more sense to me).

Although there were hundreds of people at the event, Pete and I were able to move around easily and weren’t at all bothered by the crowds. All the stalls looked great and I could have bought one of absolutely everything. The main things that we wanted to look at were the vendors that were selling Australian, handmade products as well as sussing out the prams and car seat companies that were on show. We didn’t go to the fair to necessarily buy anything, but more to know what was out there, what we need that we may not have thought of yet, and what products best suit us. That is why One Fine Baby is such a great event, because even if you don’t go there with the intention of purchasing anything, you still take so much away from it!

Spoiler alert, we did end up buying something though..

lil Soph & Co.

We stumbled across a really sweet looking stall, lil Soph & Co. Founded by Sydney-sider, Kirsten, lil Soph & Co. offers a range of quality, handmade products that are super funky in design, as well as being incredibly durable and practical. I was drawn to this stall because of the colours and prints that were on display, as well as just how professional yet accessible this brand and products felt. Kirsten also provides a custom-design service where you can discuss a special design that you wish to order! The brand offers bandana bibs, blankets and wraps, burp cloths, teething rings, onesies and cushions for you and your little one!

For our little man, Pete and I bought an organic cotton burp cloth. On one side is a funky, boho pattern (that I utterly swooned over) and on the other side is cotton towelling. It is double-layered and the perfect size to fit nicely over your shoulder, ideal (and super absorbent) for when it come to spit-up, spills and any other baby messes! Plus, it is just so freaking gorgeous.

Here are some other vendors that Pete and I loved:


Developed and founded by Australian mum and Children’s Nutritionist, Rennae, Grabease is a product and brand that was born when she went in search for the perfect self-feeding utensils for her own children. From their website, “developed in California by a problem solving Mama, Maya Shalev of Elli and Nooli, Grabease are revolutionary for toddler self-feeding. Not only are they toddler sized, they are a developmental tool that encourages motor skill development, independence and boosts baby’s self-confidence, making it so much easier for everyone at mealtimes.”

With their short-handled, ergonomic handle, the cutlery sets are perfect for little hands. With approval and recommendations from occupational therapists, the Grabease sets also feature a choke guard, non-toxic BPA free plastic as well as being available in six gorgeously fun colours! The handle is the pièce de résistance with its tear-drop shape, working with your bub’s vertical hand-hold.


New Zealand company Woolkin create pure wool and timber toys for your little ones – and let me tell you right now, they are deadset wonderful. With the desire to create toys made without toxins and phthalates, Woolkin has designed their range with environmental and ethical values in mind as well as wanting to offer children bright, fun and engaging products! Each of the toys are made with 100% pure New Zealand wool fibre that is ethically produced and offer the benefits of natural materials. The range is antibacterial, breathable, fire resistant and even offer sound absorption.

Pete and I fell madly in love with Brave Dave the Fire Engine, whose ladder you can slip out of its holder and manoeuvre. The range of toys all come flat packed with quick and simple click-and-lock assembly, so if your little one is that little bit older you can have fun whilst putting it together!

Little Snapbacks

Pete was beside himself when we came across this booth. Little Snapbacks specialise in custom hats that are made just for kids! Founded and created by a Sydney mum, Little Snapbacks offer premium quality and perfect fit for your little one, focusing on highlighting and celebrating every child’s individuality. Each and every hat comes embroided with your bub’s name on it, with sizes available for children aged 0-10 years old and a wide range of colour combinations to choose from!

Not only will your child be beyond excited to have something with their own name on it (I still get excited when I find ‘Leah’ on things, and as I type this, I am wearing my ‘Leah’ neckalce), but the hats are UPF50+, rated ‘excellent’ in sun protection!

Cub + Scout

I love a bag. I love needing to buy a bag. I love discovering pockets and running through a mental list of what personal item I would put in each compartment. I love a bag. Like many of the products I have mentioned today, CUB + SCOUT was created out of personal experience and the realisation of a gap in the Australian market; “born out of its two founders’, Pip Reed and Christina Phillips, fruitless search for a carryall bag that paired aesthetic style with functional design for those on the go”. Created for new mums, CUB + SCOUT offers a versatile, lightweight and functional bag that was also stylish and oh-so-good-looking.

When I saw the CUB + SCOUT booth, I had to wait to have a look at the bags because they were so packed – and for good reason! The ‘Leader’ Carryall bag is where it’s at people. Made from durable and washable neoprene, the ‘Leader’ is incredibly roomy with the perfect amount of both large and small pockets as well as free space (for those moments when you just need to chuck things in!). What I was most excited by was ‘The Mum Set’ which comes with the ‘Leader’ Carryall, the Pouch and the Change Mat. I have never thought of myself as a particularly stylish woman, but I know that this bag is a step in the right direction.


Pete should do promo work for iCandy. Seriously. As soon as we found out we were pregnant, he told me that he wanted an iCandy pram – so you can imagine how excited he was when I told him that they were going to be at the baby fair. Ecstatic. I am a novice when it comes to prams, with my only requirements being that it be light and easy to collapse; I am not a tall person, nor am I a strong one so those features are vital for me. When we got to the iCandy booth, I asked for a demonstration so that I could see it in action – and by god, it is brilliant. I cannot speak highly enough of this wonderful, clever, ergonomic, functional, versatile pram.

Where do I even begin?

We fell in love with the iCandy Peach. The seat unit is the biggest on the market by way of being able to grow with your child. What I loved hearing is how much research and feedback goes into the company’s design process. The hood of the pram has been extended which gets rid of the need for parents to hang a blanket or sheet over the face of the pram for when bub is sleeping. There is also a netted peephole at the top of the hood to improve oxygen and air flow so that your bub isn’t breathing stale, still air. The basket is large and easily reachable. The handle is easily adjusted by a large button in the centre of the grip, and the movement is smooth. The seat itself is incredibly easy to attach and detach while remaining secure and firm when it is in place. To collapse the pram, all I have to do is pop the seat out, release the pram handle so it is all the way down and pick the pram up by the handle in the basket which completes the fold of the collapsed pram. It’s pretty much a single motion and that is fine by me. More than fine. It’s everything to me. They have also cleverly included a pocket at the back of the seat unit that is able to fit a couple of nappies, wipes, bottle,  keys, wallet and phone for those days where you don’t want to carry anything, or if you are off to exercise. There are also extender bars which means you can have the unit sitting higher in case your child is sick or grizzly and in need of more frequent attention. It also allows the pram to be used as a high-chair, able to be pushed up directly against the table at the appropriate height!

There is also the option for the Carrycot attachment which is a horizontal unit for newborns. The carrycot has also been approved as a bassinet for when you are travelling, which eliminates having to bring along (often bulky) travel bassinets when you are on the move.

Also, a few notes to leave you with:

– cravings this week include nacho cheese flavoured tortilla chips, tuna and avocado sandwiches and cherry tomatoes by the punnet

– for all you mamas out there that are due in late summer like me, I strongly suggest that you invest in some stretchy playsuits. Mum and I went to the shops yesterday and, in Cotton On at the moment there are really cute jumpsuits that are absolutely perfect heading into summer with a belly that just will not stop growing. For me, it has been a game changer. I am wearing my jumpsuit today and I am loving myself sick. I can sit cross-legged in the park for lunch comfortably, the stretchy fabric means there is absolutely no pressure on my belly and it is so light that the heat is barely a worry (not really.. but it makes it a lot more manageable)

106 days until due date

106 days until due date

Well – we are almost into double digits for the countdown to the due date and I tell you what, it can’t come soon enough! Not because I am over my pregnancy yet or am not enjoying it, but because we are just that excited to […]

Getting Ready for Bub – Product Round Up

Getting Ready for Bub – Product Round Up

I have been incredibly lucky already to have had the opportunity to work with some incredible brands as I begin the journey of The (Oblivious) New Mama. Six months pregnant now, Pete and I are just starting to really think about and plan what we need […]

113 days until due date

113 days until due date

I am absolutely exhausted. I am in good spirits, I am the happiest I have been in a long time but I am ridiculously tired/spent/debilitated. There is nothing left in the tank.

Bubba has been going through a big growth spurt this last week which has left me both insatiably hungry and weary through to my bones. I haven’t had a week like this – one where I feel the physical effects of bub growing – for a long time now, and I have needed to remind myself to just simply go with it. I have been sleeping well on the whole, but this week is a whole other story. I am still getting used to my new dimensions (my diameter has increased significantly) and sitting/standing/lying down has to be approached very differently. This past week I have slept maybe one hour hour each night, I even got sent home early from work because of how ruined I looked. I have been waking myself up due to how sweaty I am in the middle of the night – I am overheating as if I have a severe fever. It isn’t pleasant.

On top of that, I toss and turn and wake myself up and bub has also gotten into the really fun habit of kicking me directly in the bladder. On a positive note, my kegel muscles are bloody good but it does mean that I am getting up to go to the bathroom a lot during the night. It would have been fine if it was one restless, sleepless night but it was four, one after the other. I have also been having heart palpitations every night which at first were quite scary as they seemed to last a long time and I wasn’t able to regulate my breathing, but as they started happening more often, I have learned how to position myself and my body and what I need to do to get through the episode (which usually involves linking my hands behind my head, closing my eyes and taking really long, slows breaths). Another thing that seems to have changed lately is my appetite. For the last few weeks my eating habits have been very similar to what they were before I fell pregnant. I was having three main meals a day and that was kind of it (which I don’t advise because it is nowhere near enough). Now though, with bub going through this huge growth spurt, I want to eat anything and everything and this would be fine if bub wasn’t also taking up most of my insides. To satiate my hunger, I am eating regularly but I am also experiencing really bad indigestion so then I need to decide whether making my indigestion worse is worth it to deal with my insane hunger. If you are waiting on a handy tip or hint on how I get around this, I don’t have any. Nothing has worked and I have made peace with the fact that indigestion is now a part of my day and that’s just a thing.

What I am really happy about though is that normally (in the past) when I am this tired it will affect my mood; when my energy levels are low I have always found it really hard to regulate my moods and tend to be incredibly snappy and emotional. This week however, I have remained perky and happy, albeit a complete physical wreck when I get home of an afternoon. That right there is something that I am really proud of, and I seldom say that about myself.

Yesterday afternoon, I showered when I got home and lay on the lounge before I had to make dinner. In the half an hour that I was horizontal (with Dot perched heavily on my round belly), bub moved and kicked and tumble-turned like never before. Never has bub moved that much, for that long, with that much gusto. Bub is at that perfect stage where he/she (I AM SO EXCITED TO REVEAL IT TO YOU ALL) is strong enough now that the kicks are incredibly distinctive and I can actually feel each limb when it juts into my uterine wall, but small enough that there is still ample room to frolic around in. It makes for some very serious playtime in there. Moments like that fill me with a joy that I cannot properly describe – and I love that I am now in a place where I can appreciate and swoon over those moments fully and without distraction.

I am also making progress when it comes to really dissecting my thought and behavioural patterns which instead of being daunting and emotionally draining has been incredibly rewarding and eye-opening. My main goal is to work on my assertiveness which goes hand in hand with a lot of other things – eradicating my constant feeling of guilt and being at fault, my self-worth and self-respect, setting boundaries for myself and with others. I have always looked up to women who are fierce, who are firm in their conviction and unapologetic in their attitude. Confidence. Another big hurdle. I may come across as extroverted and confident to those who I am comfortable with, but when it comes to being confident and backing myself in any given situation, I’m not. Not yet, anyway.

Other than that, we are at the very exciting stage where we can start planning our baby shower! As it is going to be so close to Christmas, Pete and I decided to have the baby shower in early December so that majority of people are free and we will be celebrating the baby shower, Pete’s birthday and our housewarming with one big party. Shari and I are just starting to have discussions about decorations and food and alcohol and absolutely zero baby shower games (they aren’t my thing) so stay tuned for some exciting posts including:

 – how to create a killer grazing table (all recipes included) (think homemade dips, honey and rosemary brie, etc.)

 – T(O)NM Signature Mocktail/Cocktail

 – how to throw a baby shower on a budget

 – handmade buntings, table toppers and decorations

 – how to theme and style your baby shower (gender specific and neutral)

 – quirky baby shower games (even though I don’t enjoy them, I definitely know some gooduns)

Cannot even tell you how bloody excited I am.

Baby Björn x T(O)NM

Baby Björn x T(O)NM

As I have made abundantly clear (a number of times), Pete, Bub and I have been insanely busy of late. Every weekend there has been a wedding, or a family trip away, or a dinner – something, EVERYTHING. Last weekend was the beginning of what […]